What Are “Thankies” & What Do They Have to Do With Your Wedding?


Your wedding day isn’t just an event to celebrate the love and life you’ll share with your spouse-to-be. It can also be an opportunity to show your appreciation for all of the family and friends who have loved and supported you along the way. There’s something truly special about having so many people who love you in the same room, and for the ones who have gone above and beyond in helping you plan, organize, and set up your big day, it’s common to give gifts of appreciation.

Striking the right balance between a thank you gift that is both sentimental and something that your guests will want to keep long after the wedding day can be a challenge.

Which brings us back to thankies - what is a "thankie" anyway?

A thankie is a portmanteau of thank you + hankie, and this personalized handkerchief is a perfect gift to give your loved ones who you know will shed a tear or two during the ceremony. Thankies are often embroidered with meaningful quotes or messages and the wedding date, and they can be framed or put to use after the wedding day is over.

Thankies are just the right combination of traditional and sentimental while still being practical. A thankie is an ideal gift for mothers, fathers, and grandparents who just might cry watching their babies walk down the aisle.

If “thankies” aren’t really your thing, don’t worry. We’ve compiled a list of alternative gift-giving options for your wedding guests – each guaranteed to delight!

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Bridesmaids Proposals

Being a bridesmaid can be a big ask. There are a lot of parties to plan and attend, and you’re usually asking your bridesmaids to spend money on a dress, hair and makeup, and travel. It’s no wonder that bridesmaids proposals have become more common in recent years. It’s a way to show your gratitude to the people who will support you throughout the wedding planning process.

Several companies will put together bridesmaids proposals for you, but you can also make your own box of goodies and gifts to ask your bridesmaids. The bridesmaid proposal can be as extravagant or as simple as you like, but it is a nice way to acknowledge the work that can go into being a part of a wedding party.

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Matching Gifts for the Wedding Party

For your bridesmaids and groomsmen, it’s very traditional to give matching gifts to be used on the day of the wedding. Here are some ideas for matching gifts for your wedding party:

  • Jewelry, watches, and cufflinks
  • “Getting Ready” outfits, like robes, button-down shirts, or pajamas
  • Matching socks, ties, or pocket squares for the groomsmen
  • Perfume or cologne
  • Embellished ribbons or headbands

Keep your wedding party’s tastes in mind when picking out accessories. You want this gift to be something that they’ll not only wear on the day of your wedding but after as well.

Take these gifts to the next level by personalizing them. An engraved message on a pocket watch for your groomsmen or a secret message in a locket for your bridesmaids lets them know how much you appreciate everything they’ve done for you leading up to the big day.

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Handmade Gifts or Experience Gifts

Another way to show your appreciation for your loved ones on your wedding day is handmade gifts. While handmade doesn’t necessarily mean less expensive, it can also be a more budget-friendly option. Thankies, hair accessories, and jewelry can all be handmade.

Alternatively, if you’re not the crafty type, you could create an experience gift. Experience gifts come in a variety of shapes and sizes. A special breakfast on your wedding day with your mom and dad. Drinks with your wedding party the night before. A “thank you brunch” the next weekend. A thank you gift doesn’t always have to be an object, it can also be a fun experience or night out where you get to thank them for their support.

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Handwritten Notes

The best gift of all is being able to tell your loved ones how much they mean to you. A heartfelt, handwritten note is a thank you gift that never goes out of style. Find special moments throughout the day to share one-on-one time with the people that mean the most to you on your wedding day to give them their letters.

Let Bond Weddings help you with your handwritten notes! Click here to learn how Bond can help you create thoughtful, handwritten notes to your loved ones, personalized messages to all of your guests, and thank you notes after your wedding is over.

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